The ongoing prattlings of a lifelong geek and his random luck with love, work, children and rediscovering himself.
2006-11-13
Happy Home. Not.
(( I have decided that this original post should be removed, so that it is not a constant reminder of things that, once in a blue moon, come to light and get blown up, causing nothing but more bad feelings ))
You don't get to speak to people that way. Especially me. You are now on two weeks restriction, including from work (you may work tonight since it's inappropriate to make your employer pay for your stupidity.
More importantly, I think it inappropriate that my children believe that they will be treating me the way they treat their mother. That's not going to happen. You can act the "hurt lion" all you want, but in truth, it is you who are at fault, and you who forced me to take this to a public forum.
Its not my place, but its just my two cents. If your offended by it, then just disreguard it.
No disrespect, But really its not uncommon for kids to not clean their rooms and slack on their chores... How many kids do you know that are constantly keeping up with how their room looks? Especially when schools in and they are holding jobs.
IMO, your kids are some of the better disiplined kids I know... Of course they arent perfect, Who is? But punishing them is just going to make them despise authority, thus making them rebel against it.
Of course not all mistakes can go unpunished... But the nicer you are about it, the better they will take it... Too an extent of course. If you catch one of them smokin pot or partying while your out of town.. Thats different. But not cleaning their rooms isnt too big of a deal, and its usually not a kids first concern.
Wow.. .. .. I know it isn't any of my business, mostly to get into a fight between father and kids like this, so disregard my comment if you don't want to read it. I can't believe what you are saying about your children..i know them..and they seem nice, i would agree with them about the fact that you shouldn't punish them for what you are doing too. It isn't fair to you..or to them. It is true that they should do their own chores and clean their room, and do many other things normal teenagers should do, but it is also your duty to help them out. Be a father for them, not just a role model. Maybe you should try talking with them, ask them what they think you should change in your ways and ask how you could change it. How could you be a better father? Authority is big...mostly when you're a teenager. Kids only start hating and despising it when it comes on their back..like it is starting to right now. Although it is difficult for the whole family, i am sure, if you work it out together, that each and every one of you can get something out of it. Honestly, you are too harsh on your children, they will not only start disliking your authority, but YOU too!! Also, how do you know the way they treat their mother now? maybe she is more nicely treated than before because they don't feel as if being in a cage with her. Try and go talk to your children, some of having hard times with this whole mumba jumba going on at home.
This situation will never be "over", I think, but we've talked about it at length, and hopefully we're growing and will fix things.
I have yet to meet a set of parents who were prepared for parenthood. I have met VERY few parents of teenagers who had (in my opinion) figured things out, so to speak. I've always said that parenting is an unfair situation -- that you figure out most of what you need to know by the time they've GROWN UP.. and that sucks.
I have/will always love(d) my children. We will grow from this. It served a purpose, and with any luck, will never be repeated in any way, shape or form.
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ReplyDeleteYou don't get to speak to people that way. Especially me. You are now on two weeks restriction, including from work (you may work tonight since it's inappropriate to make your employer pay for your stupidity.
ReplyDeleteMore importantly, I think it inappropriate that my children believe that they will be treating me the way they treat their mother. That's not going to happen. You can act the "hurt lion" all you want, but in truth, it is you who are at fault, and you who forced me to take this to a public forum.
Its not my place, but its just my two cents. If your offended by it, then just disreguard it.
ReplyDeleteNo disrespect, But really its not uncommon for kids to not clean their rooms and slack on their chores... How many kids do you know that are constantly keeping up with how their room looks? Especially when schools in and they are holding jobs.
IMO, your kids are some of the better disiplined kids I know... Of course they arent perfect, Who is? But punishing them is just going to make them despise authority, thus making them rebel against it.
Of course not all mistakes can go unpunished... But the nicer you are about it, the better they will take it... Too an extent of course. If you catch one of them smokin pot or partying while your out of town.. Thats different. But not cleaning their rooms isnt too big of a deal, and its usually not a kids first concern.
RoB)
Wow.. .. ..
ReplyDeleteI know it isn't any of my business, mostly to get into a fight between father and kids like this, so disregard my comment if you don't want to read it.
I can't believe what you are saying about your children..i know them..and they seem nice, i would agree with them about the fact that you shouldn't punish them for what you are doing too. It isn't fair to you..or to them.
It is true that they should do their own chores and clean their room, and do many other things normal teenagers should do, but it is also your duty to help them out. Be a father for them, not just a role model. Maybe you should try talking with them, ask them what they think you should change in your ways and ask how you could change it. How could you be a better father?
Authority is big...mostly when you're a teenager. Kids only start hating and despising it when it comes on their back..like it is starting to right now. Although it is difficult for the whole family, i am sure, if you work it out together, that each and every one of you can get something out of it. Honestly, you are too harsh on your children, they will not only start disliking your authority, but YOU too!! Also, how do you know the way they treat their mother now? maybe she is more nicely treated than before because they don't feel as if being in a cage with her. Try and go talk to your children, some of having hard times with this whole mumba jumba going on at home.
sincerely,
**princess**
I appreciate any and all comments.
ReplyDeleteThis situation will never be "over", I think, but we've talked about it at length, and hopefully we're growing and will fix things.
I have yet to meet a set of parents who were prepared for parenthood. I have met VERY few parents of teenagers who had (in my opinion) figured things out, so to speak. I've always said that parenting is an unfair situation -- that you figure out most of what you need to know by the time they've GROWN UP.. and that sucks.
I have/will always love(d) my children. We will grow from this. It served a purpose, and with any luck, will never be repeated in any way, shape or form.
I love you guys